We all have dreams of becoming someone in the future.
Not just anyone, but someone you can be proud of and live happily ever after.
Sometime, the dream to become someone might seem so impossible to achieve that your parents think you should stop dreaming and move on.
Sometimes the dream might not be what your parents want, so they do not support you at all, just so they can stop you from achieving it.
And finally, they might say it is for your own good.
Is it really for our own good or for their own goodwill?
Well, believe it or not, below are 2 dreams my parents do not support and believe, and the reason behind each of them.
Becoming a Professional Hairdresser
Yes, it’s true, I dreamed of becoming a hairdresser. This all happened after I dropped out from school at the age of 17.
At the time, I was obsessed with Japanese heavy metal music, and I loved the hairstyles of those band members.
I even tried replicating their hairstyles on my own, at home.
After dropping out of school, I went on to the ITE (Institute of Technical Education).
There are many technical courses to choose from, and I was able to find a hairdressing course.
I was excited and told my parents about the course.
Guess what they said?
They told me that hairdressers in Singapore would not have a good future and I would have a hard time making a living.
Instead, they wanted me to choose engineering courses such as electrical, which I had no interest in.
At the time, I wasn’t very smart and there were a lot of things I didn’t know, so I thought my parents’ advice was really for my own good.
So I chose an electrical course.
Fast forward to today.
I regret listening to my parents, because one of my friends who chose the hairdressing course at the time had opened his own salon in Singapore.
So, tell me, does a hairdresser in Singapore have a good future?
Well… it depends on what kind of route you take.
I believe that if I had persisted and become a hairdresser, I might have either opened my own salon business or become a fashion hairstylist for celebrities, instead of writing this pitiful article.
Anyway, let’s move on to the second dream.
Becoming a Professional Drummer
I brought my first electronic drum set at the age of 19.
I used all my 2 years of savings and started going to drum lessons which I had to pay for myself, as my parents did not support me and believed I had no drumming talent.
The reason they did not believe in me was that some narcissists told my parents that I hadn’t started playing a musical instrument at an early age, so I wouldn’t have the talent to become a professional musician.
I mean, what kind of a nonsense reason was that?
And believe it or not, the narcissists who told my parents that was one of my own relatives.
But I didn’t give up.
I kept going to the drum course for almost a year, until I wasn’t able to afford the lessons any more.
And since my parent did not support me, I had to learn everything myself on the internet.
But things didn’t go well, as I had to serve in the army for 2 years.
During my 2 years in the army, a relative who believed in me told me to think about what I wanted to be in the future.
At the time, all I wanted was to become a professional drummer.
So, with that in mind, I told him what I wanted to be, and guess what he said?
He said, don’t worry, I will support you.
He also told me that he would finance me to study drumming overseas.
Can you believe that?
I couldn’t even believe what he’d said.
I mean, my parents never even said that, let alone someone who was not even a close relative.
Long story short, I found the school.
It was called the Academy of Contemporary Music School, in London.
I even registered and submitted my name.
All I had to do next was travel to London to start my drumming journey.
But everything was stopped.
And guess who stopped it?
You guessed it, my parents.
Especially my father, who wanted me to work in his industrial gas business, which I had no interest in.
Just imagine, if I’d been able to go to London to learn drumming, I’d now either be a professional drummer in a band or a freelance drummer who travels around the world playing in shows.
I would probably have had a totally different lifestyle than the one I have now.
Your Child is Not a Robot or a Dog
If you are a parent reading this, you read that right: your child is not a robot or a dog.
They have the freedom to choose their dream and the freedom to live what they believe in.
As long as the dream does not violate the law or hurt anyone, it doesn’t matter what dream is, period.
My parents treated me like a robot or a dog, and they thought their advice was for my own good, but they never really understood or knew what I really wanted in life.
Because of that, their advice put me into a life I didn’t wish for.
A life that makes me wish I could go back to the past to choose and be persistent about getting what I wanted.
But again, the past is past. No one can go back. So if you are a parent, rather than expecting your child to become someone you wanted him or her to be, it’s best to let them choose what they want to be.
Dreams Never Break Unless You Give Up
I might not become a drummer in a band touring the world, but I’ll never give up.
And although I’m nearly 40 years old, I still believe in my dream of becoming a professional drummer.
Maybe someday I can become a YouTuber who teaches drumming or a drum instructor in a class.
Who knows, right?